Love and Let Love

In face of a sudden disability or life threatening illnesses, we often find the sturdiest of relationships struggle and even end.
A third person looking at the picture from the outside wonders:
"How could she leave him just after he had a stroke? " How could he leave her when she was fighting cancer?"

On examining the story closely , it often appears that the illness doesn't make the healthy partner stop loving the ailing one.
When you promise someone you will love them to the end .. you usually do.

It is often the ill partner that finds it very difficult to accept that love.... confusing it with sympathy, feeling a sense of inadequacy, depreciation of self worth...all in all felling hurt instead of feeling loved. The anger at the illness is misdirected at the partner.
If you're the healthy partner and you find you inadvertently hurt someone you love all the time, you can only do it so much..... you leave.

I admit this is not the only reason why relationships fail when facing death and disability.....But this particular problem does beg the question.." If someone promises to love you saying- "Till death do us part".. then shouldn't you promise to "LET" that someone love you...no matter what?

There is often no lack of love..just lack of "let love"